Love Languages in Personal Life

1) Familiarize yourself with the research on the different ways we like to give and receive “love” in relationships with this link.

2) Take the 5 Love Languages Quiz

3) List your Love Languages in order of Primary, to #2, … #5.

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4) Think about a personal relationship. Do your results from the quiz hold true for you? In other words, in that personal relationship, you prefer this primary way for the other person to show appreciate/love/caring towards you?

5) Now, think about how you often demonstrate to that person that you care/love/appreciate them? Do you use a different method or use the one that was primary for you? Do you think that what you are doing is their primary “love language”?

Love Languages in Work/Professional/School/Team Setting

1) Read the information at these links about applying the Love Languages to the Work Setting:

2) Now, let’s think about this preference in a work/professional/school or team setting. How do you like to receive “appreciation/caring” in the work/professional/school/team setting? The categories are Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time and Receiving Gifts. Recall how those things are interpreted in a professional setting. The Career Contessa article had some good applications.

3) How do you like to receive appreciation in a professional setting? Spell it out for your boss/colleagues/teammates:

4) How do you give appreciation or show you care about others in a professional setting? Which Love Language do you use most often? How often do you show appreciation in a professional setting?

5) Think about a professional setting (work/team/school) that consumes much of your time and energy. Discuss how you receive appreciation from others in that setting. Give some examples. Do the things that others are doing match your preferred “appreciation languages”? If yes, then explain the impact on you of the appreciation being shown in a way that matches your preferred language(s). If no, then explain the impact of the appreciation being out of step with your preferred languages.

6) How can you use “Love Languages” to help you Encourage the Heart going forward?